Procrastination explained. We all have a "rational brain", the part that makes rational decisions. The "rational brain" says, "You have a project due in a month, let's make a plan to start now". But wait, the "monkey brain" says, "Live for today, have some fun!" Just when our "rational brain" tries to start, the "monkey brain," which is all about instant gratification, takes over. The monkey is all about the present moment, keep it easy, fun and no thought about tomorrow. This of course causes conflict. Personal note, I am an expert list writer, almost daily. I decided to find out if I really am a procrastinator. I looked at my journal from last year Christmas break. "get passport", I looked at my summer break list, "get passport", and my 2017 Christmas break, "get passport"! Guess what is on my snow day break list, "get passport". We may laugh at procrastination because even the best procrastinators usually meet their dead lines, yes, with more guilt, anxiety and panic, but we manage. Ok, a moment of truth, I did not need to check my list to know if I was a procrastinator. How did I earn my B.A and Master's while raising four children? One word, "deadlines". The fact is we are all procrastinators when deadlines are not present. There is no deadline on exercise, relationships, careers, or chasing your dreams. Many of us become spectators in our own lives, never starting because there is no sense of urgency. So I urge you to get out your life calendar and take the wheel from the monkey. Allow the "rational brain" to drive. Yes, I do have a deadline for my passport, summer of 2019, I want to visit my son and his family in the UK. I hope I don't procrastinate.
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We all experience those people, we are not sure about, are they a friend or an enemy? Most of us teach our kids about bullies, friendships, good guys and bad guys, but do we take our own advice? Adult friendship is an issue. How do we build friendships and/or breakup with friend? We have all experienced the friendship that becomes stale because of distance, jobs, interests change, you name it. We understand those. Most of us recognize toxic people around us and we limit our time with them. If the toxic person asks you to lunch or coffee, no thought required, your answer is "No". Eating alone sounds much more appealing, maybe even walking over hot coals! But,truth be told "frienemies" are more draining than the "toxics". Most of us have those people in our live where we are not quite sure if we really like them and unsure if they really like us. The energy it takes to be with them is draining. They drain us emotionally, and energy is finite, mental space is finite. How do you know which category the people around you belong in? Ask yourself one simple question. Are you ever doubting if they are happy for you? When you share good news, do they mirror your excitement? Are they dream killers? Yes we all need dream killers in our live, but that job should be left to that someone we are near and dear to. Want to be a healthier you in 2018? It may be time for a breakup!
Feel the Rush! Have you thought about a new you? Some people think New Years resolutions are over rated, just like New Years Eve. As we get older we often become skeptical because we have "been there, done that." Have you made the same resolution every year just to fail by February? No one enjoys failure, but it is important for growth. Reflect back to your failed resolutions, maybe you chose something you were not passionate about. Wether your goal is physical, financial, spiritual, mental, or emotional..... choose with authenticity. Be true to you!
1. Identify: Identify your goal with clarity. I am the type of person that________________.(is willing to work hard to achieve my goals) 2. Resolve: Write your resolution. ( I want to stop eating sugar because it fatigues me.) Does your resolution make your want to jump out of bed in the morning? If not, rewrite your resolution so it gets you excited.(I want to stop eating sugar so I can be energetic and dominate my Cross Fit workouts.) 3.Credibility: Create micro goals to help you achieve your final goal. 1.__________________________________ 2__________________________________ 3._________________________________ MY 2018 RESOLUTION REALITY My New Year’s Resolution is_______________________________. I am going to crush this resolution because I am the type of person that (self-belief) I can’t wait to jump out of bed early every morning and start attacking my goals and the first step is going to be (micro goal) Once I reach (success metric)_____________________________________, I’ll know I’ve completed my New Year’s Resolution. |
AuthorToday is the first day of the rest of your life. What do you want your life to look like? The amazing thing is the choice is yours. I have spent many years of my life being passive, allowing things to happen to me. How many of us are spectators in our own lives? I know I was for years. I watched my energy decrease. I was tired, bloated, and had brain fog. Most days I woke up only to look forward to my next nap.Then I began an active quest for energy, peace and joy! I can honestly say it was a long journey, which I am still on. I am no longer looking for the magic pill! Magic hacks....yes! At 51 I feel more energetic than I have in years. If I were to give everyone the top 3 things to allow you to live your life with energy, peace and joy... Archives
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